Second Life Same Wife

 Second Life Same Wife by Deena McDaniel Positively Beautiful Blog 4/21/22

 

 


 

I may be one of the only people who watch a movie and fast forward through the boring parts to get to the important parts. Watching movies by myself I could see several in a couple of hours. It’s no big deal for me to miss the dialogue. I get the idea of the show and oh well if I miss boring chatter. Usually, it’s a simple show. I’m never missing much. And should you put that into action to fast forward past the bad stuff, soon your life is over. Life is fleeting.  “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: … a time to plant and a time to uproot,” Ecclesiastes 3:1-2

 

 

 

Often, I’d love to have that option as a do-over. Take the rewind button and fix the broken in a different manner, live that moment in an exciting way, or show gratefulness with abundance. Second chances will not present themselves in the same way. This life is one and done.

 

 

 

 

 

My memory of life is selective.   Yours is as well. Two people are in the same experience and there are possibly two different stories. Ask an old married couple…Mickey and me. “Do not say, ‘Why were the old days better than these?’ For it is not wise to ask such questions.” Ecclesiastes 7:10   In the past 35 years we’ve had some crazy fun adventures as well as a few heartbreaking events. It’s life. Fast forward if you will to this Florida home of two residents. A once bustling family of 6, switches gears to two. Deuteronomy 32:11  -“Like an eagle that stirs up its nest, that flutters over its young, spreading out its wings, catching them, bearing them on its pinions,”

 

 

 

 

My grieving moments come in waves and often out of nowhere. I miss my children being here. I’m thankful for the Lord’s provision for each of their lives. Now what?

 

 

 

 

 

I think of the adventures ahead for the newly wedded kids Rosey and Desmond. The great advantage they have is the Lord. They’re both solid Christian believers. At year one for Mickey and me not so much. And yet, God’s hand was upon us.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If we could flip a switch and get a do-over, I’d sure think twice on many choices. Moving forward our lives suddenly have that second life! A renewed joy has risen. We’re here alone. We’re on our own. We’re on our second life. As newlyweds, we had our harsh moments as we got to know each other. Now as silver-haired smarty pants (mine might be blue?) our outlooks are brand new.

 

 

 

 

 

Struggles in marriage will never leave us. We’re human. We’re sinners. We’re not going to be a statistic of “grey divorce.” You’ve seen couples who’ve been married a long time and suddenly they're canceling the union.  Every stage has its challenging moments. Problems follow you. A spouse often has a way of bringing out the hard facts of who you are. “If only he would do what I say he’d be a better man!” or “If she would give in to the kind ‘suggestions’ I have for her, she’d be a fantastic wife!”   Everyone has advice. The Lord’s advice is clear. Honor and respect your husband. Love your wife as Christ loved the Church, men. Yep, we're finger pointers! Look to the third finger and not the middle.

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